Stuck?

77.Stuck

Move your feet to move your mind.

Most mammals react to fear with “Fight or Flight.”

Unfortunately, we humans have a third reaction: PARALYSIS.

Recently, a friend of mine, Anna Birch, offered me the following advice when my team and I were STUCK: “Move your feet, move your mind.”

Often, my instinct when I get overwhelmed is to STOP and take stock. That is when my “To Do List” hits me like a 50 foot wave crashing on my head!

My mind can quickly shift to hopelessness where hours turn into days and days into weeks.

Anna’s advice works, but it means that I often have to give up on the idea of certainty in my next step. (Perhaps “certainty” is a delusion that I too often chase?)

Taking the NEXT STEP allows me two key advantages:

  1. I get out of the spot where the piano is about to land on my head!
  2. It allows me to see the situation from a different perspective.


Post ItPutting one foot in front of the other,

Sean Finter


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13 comments

  1. Jon Firman   •  

    Good advice, Sean.  Someone I greatly admire is Brian Weiner, CEO of The Illusion Factory which is a marketing company based in Los Angeles .  He has a quote he often uses that says,

    “Freedom comes from being at ease with the certainty of uncertainty”.  

    I find I don’t often know the next step and that can cause a lot of fear.  But any movement is better then no movement at all. 

    • Sean Finter   •  

      Great quote and I will look him up- sounds like a bright guy.

  2. David Domzalski   •  

    I am not sure if you are talking figuratively or literally, however, every Sunday, I get out of my house and head to a one local place or another (preferably with with outdoor) seating and pull out three things I have been struggling with.  It never fails that I get some movement on at least one of them.

    The view, the smells, the sounds, the people around me; sometimes discussing what I am working on with a stranger next to me.  It just seems easier to get out of that rut.

    • Sean Finter   •  

      Both… and yes, a change of enviroment is EXACTLY what i need to jump start me sometimes (coffee shops work wonders)!

  3. Layne   •  

    I don’t think you move away from pianos falling on your head Sean, they’re too big :)

    I liked what Anna had to say because it was about how we put constraints on ourselves by our own assumptions. Questioning all the elements of our problems rather than thinking rigidly in place is not only helpful, it’s liberating.

    Also: Everyone check out the Bar Magazine. It is the coolest thing I’ve seen in a minute.

    • Sean Finter   •  

      I don’t know… i feel like i have been hit by a piano some days!

  4. Antoclarke   •  

    CVSTOBVS – “The Brain” by Michael Gleeson – In the process of training my brain software to always look for a “Better View of the Situation” rather than the “Current View of the situation”. All you need to believe is that there is always a Better View of any situation

    • Sean Finter   •  

      I will pick up a copy this week. Thanks for the recomendation! SOunds great.

  5. Jason   •  

    Fight, flight or Freeze – yep, know all of these well :-)

    However, I am finding more & more that stopping and stilling my mind helps keep perspective more than anything.

     - or maybe I’m just getting old.

    • Sean Finter   •  

      I think there is definitly an arguement for standing still and meditating on a subject to work it through. My issue is that when i stand still most times i “change the channel” in my head to find out when i “tune back in” things got worse, not better.

      I don’t think your getting old Jason- it sounds like you are getting wise!

  6. Davylyng   •  

    I had one of those days yesterday. I had so much to do and I was getting so anxious to do it that nothing was getting done. I then remembered some good advice I got that said just keep putting one foot in front of the other and thats what I did, literally. I went for a 3 mile run and when I got back everything just fell into place. I think most of us like to get the hardest things out of the way first, but being human, you sometimes need to start your day with a couple of “little victories” to get you going. Whatever you do, dont stop, keep moving forward

    • Layne   •  

      Cool Davy! I like the way you phrase it. Makes sense to me!

    • Sean Finter   •  

      Davy- nothing gets my mind pumping like a good run. I did 5 miles this morning before the sun rose and have had one of the most productive days i have had in months! Keep running my friend!

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